Telling women to be “grateful” is an easy method of brushing them off. Women are told to be grateful for jobs that don’t justify them somewhat the political system that doesn’t represent them accurately, and the legal structures that can’t protect their safety.
Are we really grateful?
We are told to be grateful for whatever is hanging off our chests, regardless of what they make us feel. We should be grateful of the size of our breasts. We should be grateful for the shape of our breasts. We should be grateful that we have breasts. Also, we should be grateful that we have healthy breasts. If we have healthy breasts, we should be grateful because many women die of breast cancer in their early 40s or 50s.
Is it a thing to hide?
“At 5, I’ve always been small in stature according to my age. By the time I entered high school, my c-cups seemed very large for my body. People noticed and friends came and said that boys in the class used to notice your big boobs. I wanted to die“, said Ilana Gordon. She adopted full clothing and wore sweaters and avoided swimming or soccer, the places where she might be asked to wear a bathing suit.
After completing her high school, she realised that while other people might think that she had put on some weight, but her rest of the body had finally caught up to her chest. She developed abnormal eating habits and made herself throw up frequently. Then, during the freshman year, she learned healthier habits and dropped her weight and started practising yoga. But even after the rest, she still has issues with her chest. She still feels too heavy for comfort.
Is Breast reduction a solution?
After college, she finally decided to go for breast reduction. As her grandfather was a plastic surgeon, he ensured that she does not have to deal with physical therapy or insurance of hefty medical bills.
It has been eight years, and she still struggles with her body confidence.
The mentality of every women!
“For years I thought my issues with my breasts were unique; that my dissatisfaction with my body was a combination of privilege and a lack of more pressing problems to contend with. But it turns out I was wrong: 70% of women report feeling dissatisfied with their breast size or shape”.
Are Mental health and breast size related?
Boston Children’s Hospital termed it as “breast asymmetry” and found that young women with asymmetrical or overlarge breasts tend to have lower emotional health than their peers.
All we want is comfort!
Whenever we gather enough courage to ask doctors about the asymmetry, we are told to be grateful to have breasts. We are told that breasts are a symbol of femininity and fertility. But in teenage, all we think is about comfort.
“I was 16 years old. I wanted to buy a bra from Victoria’s secret without one breast swimming in one oversized cup and one breast bursting out of the other. I was angry and confused and in pain and embarrassed and I was not grateful.”
Love your body!
Women are conditioned to ask a lot about breasts. They should be healthy, milky, perky functional, anything but not distracting. Women become emotionally and mentally fraught and they lack emotional energy.